Posted by Micol Ostow on Tuesday, May 3, 2011
This week, we're spotlighting Emily Wing Smith's Back When You Were Easier to Love!
Emily and I were in the same MFA program, and she was even in my very first workshop, so I've been a fan since before her first contract.
What's worse than getting dumped? Not even knowing if you've been dumped. Joy got no goodbye, and certainly no explanation when Zan - the love of her life and the only good thing about stifling, backward Haven, Utah - unceremoniously and unexpectedly left for college a year early. Joy needs closure almost as much as she needs Zan, so she heads for California, and Zan, riding shotgun beside Zan's former-best-friend Noah.
Without giving any plot away, let's talk about Joy's cross-country quest for Closure. Haven't we all been in a relationship that ended against our own preferences?
(No? Just me? Come on, people - I know you're holding out!)
Speaking personally, I can recall one relationship in particular that I was reluctant to let go of. Maybe more reluctant than I should have been: my ex was a shameless flirt, constantly getting caught cheating when we weren't out together. Unfortunately, I was too hooked to kick him to the curb, like I should of. I stuck around...and in the end, he broke up with me!
Unlike Joy, I got my Closure...for better or for worse. But in a crappy situation like the one I was in - why bother? Does Closure really make a crappy situation better? In my case, methinks not.
But let's hear from YOU - can you think of a time when you've held on or held out - when Closure has become this all-encompassing thing? Have you ever had a problem knowing when to say when?